Stop Auditioning for Roles You Don’t Want: Just Be Yourself and Let the Right People Find You

“Just be yourself.”

I’m sure most,if not all,of us have heard that at some point in our lives. And honestly? It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to actually learn.

I used to think I was being myself. I’d tell myself, “What do you mean? I am being me!” But deep down, I was constantly tweaking, adjusting and editing who I was depending on who I was around.

 Chasing Approval: A Losing Game

I spent a huge chunk of my life trying to get everyone to like me. I wanted the green light from every single person to feel safe being who I truly was.

Here’s an example: let’s say I was in a group of five people. Four of them were vibing with me. Laughing at my jokes, connecting and having a great time. But there was that one person. The one who seemed unimpressed or downright resistant to my presence.

So what did I do?I focused entirely on that person. I spent all my energy trying to win them over instead of being fully present with the four people who already accepted me. And in doing so, I slowly morphed into someone I thought that one person might approve of. The result? I lost the connection with the four who liked the real me in the first place.

The brutal truth I had to face was this:

Not everyone is going to like me.

I’m not meant to play a character in everyone else’s play.

You’re the Writer, Not the Extra

I once saw an interview with Dolores Cannon where she shared something from a session. The person had a profound realization, that life is like a play.

They described seeing characters waiting on the sidelines to come in for their role. Plot points waiting down the road and most importantly, that we are the writer, producer and star of our own script.

And if we don’t like what’s playing out?We can write a new scene.

But here’s the kicker. I had spent years trying to figure out what role I was supposed to play in everyone else’s script instead of writing my own.

Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea and That’s Okay

I’m not everyone’s vibe. Some people think I’m too much. Others, not enough. Some don’t like how I look or speak or the energy I bring.

But here’s the thing, I’ve felt that way about people too.Some people just didn’t resonate with me and not because they weren’t good people. They just weren’t meant to be part of my story at that time.

That shift in perspective changed everything for me. It wasn’t personal. It was energetic misalignment. Nothing more.

The Only Approval You Need

When I stopped taking rejection personally, things started to click.I realized I didn’t need everyone to like me. I didn’t need their approval.

There is only one person whose approval I ever reallyneeded. My Own.

Final Thoughts: Let the Right People Align With You

The point of this, and there is one, is that once I stopped trying to figure out what role to play in others people’s lives in order to align with them and started being myself, my world started to align with me. And I have never looked back.